Most of the coaching out there tells us “you’re amazing”, “you’re perfect the way you are”, “you’re special”, etc.
I see how this makes sense to people with low self esteem, but I’m on the opposite side of the spectrum.
I often fall victim to thinking “I am so great, I don’t think there are many other people as worthy and amazing as me”.
There are reasons: my mom is constantly telling me this(!), I achieved fairly a lot in my career, I am attractive, I’m curious and getting out there, I’m making good deeds and support others and the list goes on. I can pat myself on the back all day.
I guess it’s good that I’m aware of all the positive things about me, but the thing is I keep forgetting the bad stuff.
I have been hurt, I have hurt others, I have commitment issues, can’t stick to anything for a long time, I’m impatient aaaaaaand I can’t even come up with more now and I’m sure there’s much more.
It seems really counter intuitive to bring myself down on purpose, but sometimes I feel that that’s the right way to stay down to earth and not spiral into self idealism. Which, and I had to find out the hard way a couple of times, brings pointless suffering.